Unconditional Love

We all battle with self-doubt and insecurities. Often we are not fully aware that they are even present in the moments we share with our friends and relationships. When these insecurities sneak into our minds, into our relationships with ourselves, our friends, our significant others and our families; we often end up fighting or getting frustrated with the other person. We become pulled into self-doubt and our immediate reaction is self-preservation of our own ego instead of understanding the other person’s truth. In this state we feel alone, we feel isolated. THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!

I was reading a friend’s (@ammday) post today about loving unconditionally and it reminded me how important it is to practice this and strive towards this. Unconditional love is often the answer to our own insecurities and self-doubt. It tames the negative beast within all of us. When we find ourselves reacting defensively to another person’s opinions especially those closest to us, remembering we love them unconditionally and we love ourselves unconditionally can ground you back into reality. Remember that their opinions or ideas do not make ours any less real or valid. They are just that person’s truth and we love them. Reacting to them with unconditional love, with acceptance, instead of with our own insecurities often will prevent fighting and frustration.

When the people around me have different viewpoints or opinions on certain subject I tend to get defensive. This is something I have been actively trying to work on. I am starting to believe it comes from my own insecurities and my own self-doubt about a subject and life. I want my choices to be approved by those I love, I want them to think what I am doing is great and to inspire people. As soon as someone challenges or express a slightly different view than I spiral into idea they are personally attacking my beliefs that they do not think I am good enough. I know on some level this is NOT true but not enough to stop these negative thoughts always. I also believe we all have these doubts. How do we counter act those feelings? The easiest way for me to counteract these negative feelings is by accepting that they are present, and accepting they are not true. Once we accept them we can release them. Once they have been released they begin to lessen in the mind.

Giving into our negative thoughts leads us down a dark tunnel in both our relationships with our selves but also with everyone around us. I will not say you will never have negative thoughts, and that sometimes they won’t get the best of you, but your positive thoughts are more powerful than your negative ones. Continue to battle with and accept them each day because you are strong and beautiful in every sense.

To all of you also going through the battle with your negative thoughts, keep going, you are not alone. Keep trying to change those negative into positive ones. Acting with intention, accept your negative thoughts and then let them go. Unconditionally love yourself and the people around you. Be present in your truth.

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